If we meet at a holiday party and I seriously ask how you
feel about dying you might think up a quick excuse to walk
away. It is one of those topics we avoid. Even in our private
thoughts sports, weather, food, family, economy, almost
anything is more comfortable than death.
Death is terrible and sad. Self preservation instincts cause
living things to prevent it if possible. We grieve over the
death of loved ones but even though we too will go
sometime, why spoil now thinking about it? Because
coming to terms with it gets one more monster out from
under the bed.
Most reactions to the death of others are selfish. We are
sad because we won’t see that person again, guilty
because we outlived them, resentful of being hit with
this tragedy, afraid we will now be lonely, angry because
their suffering made us feel bad, upset because our lives
Loved ones do not wish for those left behind to stop
enjoying life. No guilt is necessary for saying goodbye,
adjusting and creating a new normal.
Assuming our own dying process will be full of pain and
suffering is borrowing trouble. It may or may not be true.
Those who have gone before have not reported on what
happens later so the details of an afterlife are guesswork.
When people experience the death of dear ones we may
shy away from the uncomfortable subject. Light
conversation on other subjects does not decrease the
sadness or stop the pain. It may just feel like lack of
No amount of wealth, medical help, isolation, religious
belief, love, admiration, protection of any kind will avoid
death. We all go. Get over it.
The time we spend alive varies from one minute to a
hundred or more years and the best we can do is handle
each moment well. Have patience. Experiencing death
will solve the mysteries.
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