Take a shortcut

I Googled “how to improve my life” and got eight
hundred thirty two million results in a fraction of a
second. Strangely when I typed “how to improve your
life” there were only six hundred ninety four million.
(This proves beyond a doubt that my life is more
important than yours. Right?)

The top few on the list had anywhere from eight to a
hundred suggestions. It’s safe to say there are millions
of sites giving millions of suggestions. Change, study,
learn, think, act, make goals, plan, stay present, get real,
work hard, don’t worry, be happy. Lots of good advice
but I would have to start young to read it all in one
lifetime. An example of information overload.

Here’s a short version. Can we improve life without
changing? No, but the changes can be small and
gradual. Even a complete makeover is done one thing
at a time.

Broke? Frustrated? Unpopular? Lonely? Don’t start by
fighting it, relax and accept it. Happiness isn’t finding
what you love, it’s loving what you find. Accepting
yourself, your circumstances and relaxing about it
improves your life immediately. Your more relaxed self
will be healthier, more effective and likeable. See where
this is going?

Searching for how to make people pay you or like you
is a waste of time. You can’t “make” either thing. People
will pay you for goods or services. If you don’t have
goods and don’t know how to service you won’t get paid.
Learn one or both.

People will like you when you are non-threatening,
friendly and interested in them. When you are not, they
will not. (Bathing is also helpful.)

Think about being homeless, hungry, cold and dirty.
Would Bill Gates, Warren Buffet or Donald Trump be able
to find happiness in that condition? Sure. They’re bright
and flexible just like you. They would rejoice over finding
a fairly clean apple core and an unoccupied hot air vent.
Then they would figure out how to sell the secret location
and buy their own hot air vents.

If you are not homeless, hungry, cold and dirty you are
well ahead of the game. Don’t complain, roll up your
sleeves and start making it better.

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