Progress means change. Change means breaking a
current habit. Every habit I have exists because I
decided something was best for me. Once I got started
and repeated it a few times I got comfortable with it,
didn’t even think about it, just did it.
I have habits now that were formed in childhood.
Started for some reason I can’t remember. Whatever
the reason, I’m sure is was important to a thirteen year
old. Look in the mirror. Your long ago decision may be
right for now or out of date.
Some habits are formed because somebody important
told me to. Mom and dad insisted I eat heavy meals each
day. A school teacher told me to speak in a louder voice.
Friends made fun of the way I dressed or combed my
hair. All well meaning but not necessarily good for me
Some habits are hard to break. I started smoking at age
fifteen because I wanted to look grown up. At first it
was obvious that my body didn’t want me inhaling that
smoke. Coughing, nausea, bad taste in my mouth. I
overcame all that and succeeded in looking like a
fifteen year old who was trying to look mature.
Later in life I struggled with cigarettes for years before
I finally quit. That’s because I felt I was giving up
something wonderful. Denying myself real pleasure.
Kept rewarding myself with a cigarette when I thought
I deserved it.
I didn’t really quit until I finally got sick and tired of
being a slave to a dirty, unhealthy habit. Embarrassed
by being too weak to handle a simple problem. Ashamed
of sneaking cigarettes and lying to the kids about it.
Smoking became pain, not pleasure.
After I got my mind in the right place quitting was
easy. I didn’t need gum, candy or some other replacement
habit. I felt so much better physically and mentally that I
relaxed about it. Knew I would never go back to smoking.
Once again the mind is the key. It controls me.
One goal of mine is to be a full time writer. I found out it
is easier said than done. I looked at why I wasn’t getting
there and discovered my priorities were wrong. I was
spending so much time reading emails, looking at
statistics and studying how to write I was too tired to
actually do it. Now I write first every day and am doing
My habits affect everything. Business, personal, the
whole lot. Success in changing anything from the
smallest on up is a three step process.
- One – Accept that if I keep doing what I’m doing I’ll keep
getting the same results.
- Two – Get a handle on what needs to change and how
to possibly accomplish it.
- Three – Start now. Some day isn’t a plan.
When I see that it works I can make success a habit.
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